Uncle Bardie’s Spotlight Movie: Dad

Once a week on Friday, Uncle Bardie celebrates the creativity in others by shining a Spotlight on a movie, a song or a creator. To celebrate this Sunday’s Father’s Day, this week’s Spotlight Movie is “Dad” (1989):

I never knew my father. My mother took me and left my father when I was six months old. She left him because she was working her fingers to the bone and my father would not work. I jokingly accuse my father of being the laziest man in the State of Alabama. So I always carried this burden around with me that he wasn’t there.

Now the story I heard was that my mother wouldn’t let him contact me when I was growing up. Then I became an adult and he could have made the effort. But he did not.

When I was younger, I got angry every time I thought about him. I’ve gotten over that. I have forgiven him. That’s his burden, not mine.

If I had a Dad, what would he have been like? I would hope he was like Jake Tremont (Jack Lemmon) who was a man with a heart as large as the great outdoors. A man who loved his family, and loved them so much he gave his life for his family. He did it with nary a complaint.

Now I know there are a lot worse fathers than a Jake Tremont. But I also know that a boy needs a father and mine was Missing In Action. And, on Father’s Day each year, I find myself missing the man more and more.

There are those who believe that a child doesn’t need a father. To me, that’s a lot of hogwash.

For all of you who had great Dads, I hope you really really appreciate the love they gave you and the role model they were for you. Because I am thinking that there are a lot more great Dads than there are lousy fathers.

For all those great Dads, here is a song to remind you what you mean to your children:



5 thoughts on “Uncle Bardie’s Spotlight Movie: Dad

  1. I’m so sorry you didn’t have a father…that’s a loss that you feel your whole life, I would think. Mine was far from perfect, but I am still so incredibly thankful I had him in my life. And I wish you had known yours, too.

  2. I’m with you Don. I never knew my dad either or at least I don’t remember knowing him. Apparently he was in the picture till I was about 2 but I’ve been unable to find any verification that my parents were even married (this was in the mid 1950s so you can imagine the way my mother was probably treated). When I finally went looking for him a few years ago I discovered I’d waited too long as he had passed sometime around 2008. But I did get to meet two of his sisters so there’s that. Only one of the parade of stepfathers was even worthy of mentioning and that one wound up in prison. Dads ARE important and I wonder how my life would be different had I known mine or had one of the stepfathers stuck around to be a real dad.

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